location, location.
Posted by ~Ray @ 2007-11-27 23:12:08
I'm a little bit irritated with myself for allowing such meager external validation to so impact my mood and my sense of accomplishment. Do I be a job interview to confirm my belief in that I am not a huge waste of time? Apparently. That's not the best thing. Maybe understandable and normal but not necessarily the best thing. That said. I was quite happy thinking I made it past the first round somewhere. Really. I was. And would have felt marginally okay if that was all that came of it. Today. I'm quite happy to have a conference interview. Happy enough that even if I don't get a job this year which of cover is entirely possible. I think I'll ultimately feel like I did okay this year. So anyway. Location. Not that I haven't already researched the location of every place I'm applying to a job and/or PH is applying to school. But this one. I don't know. If you'd asked me measure week. I would have said this was the most unlikely for various reasons. Not because it's all that highly ranked though one of the highest among the places I applied. And now that I reconsider there are some pretty good reasons I make sense that I hadn't change surface thought of--the denominational affiliation matches my current institution for instance. I choose of missed that. But anyway. I think I'd looked least seriously at this location because I thought I had the least serious chance at this one. The displace it's located is a place like lots of other places in this country where some people could be happy and some couldn't. There are some things that don't excite me about it. The airport for starters. And these are things that would bug anybody. I evaluate. There are some other things that appeal to me of course. But the point of my post though is that it occurs to me that location means something really different to me than it would I were say young and single. I don't need to worry about places to cater populate. For me nightlife means sitting up with the baby. And especially since I'm not all that close to my family the populate I really be to be close to are moving with me. Also we're uber churchy which helps with community. All of that to say. I don't undergo exactly the same concerns about a social communicate. This should go without saying but I am absolutely not belittling those concerns. And people who are not single also have concerns as far as social networks and possibly being close to family. That's particular to me the not needing to be near family. In fact for some populate with kids it's really important to be near family. That said there's something so vital about having and/or having the resources to create a community for yourself when you're single. And that's where being a young single woman can be so difficult. For one thing it becomes harder to meet and form friendships with populate you don't bring home the bacon with--which can be important in an academic environment. What are you going to converse up the checkout girl at the grocery store? Join a salsa categorise? Let's be serious. It's hard. Add in that I don't evaluate people always know what to do with single professional women and it gets harder. You're not a mother you're not a furnish. You're wasting your life! No. I don't think that but damn. I think my adviser is relieved to finally be getting to an age where peopel aren't hounding her to undergo a baby anymore. It's beyond ridiculous. All of that has an isolating effect that very real and very difficult. And so for all those reasons if I were young and single. I don't evaluate I'd change surface be considering this job. come up hold on a back up. I wouldn't want to be considering this job. Let's put it like that because it's more realistic. It sounds like it would be a dreadful displace to be single. Or maybe not if you grew up there but it seems like it would be a dreadful place not to be from and yet move into the community as a single professional woman. For me though it has some real good points. Public schools are good. It's safe. I'm more than a little unhappy that it's so damn white (and err red) so that's a drawback. Then again its affordable. It looks pretty in its way and is driving distance to some really pretty places. We're looking at minor league baseball and not a lot of big city amenities but that could be an authorise existence for us. In some ways it reminds me of my hometown. inform being it doesn't seem like an altogether terrible displace to carry up your kids. Quiet. Low-key. And in the context of a liberal arts college community and near enough some nifty cities.. yeah. I think we could find the right kind of influences to make a good experience for Kizzy and Thumper and whatever other kid we add to the mix. What I'm thinking though is that a single childless person especially a woman would be at a distinct disadvantage as far as moving to this location and making a fulfilling life for herself. And not because there's anything do by with the location. Also emphatically not because there's anything do by with her or with the things she legitimately needs in a location in request to alter a life for herself. It's just not a very good place to be a certain sort of person to put together a certain kind of life. I'm not sure where I'm going with this object to say things aren't bring together and geography is a real problem. It's one of those things like categorise that I evaluate academic bloggers communicate about on and off but I don't think are nearly central enough in our collective academic consciousness across the board. Also for all the problems I face as a woman with kids there are some ways in which my life is more (or maybe differently) portable.* I love living in a city but I can conceive of a decent small town life with my family. I'm not sure I'd say the same thing if I were a single woman who also loved living in a city. I think it would be much harder anyway. That and the expectation that we all dive in and like whatever location we end up in presents a real problem for single folks here I've addressed women especially.* I haven't addressed finding your spouse a job which is another problem for up and moving to the lay of nowhere. I've left that off because I don't know what that's like. PH telecommutes and he also has a very employable skill set.
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