"Approximately 30 percent of college students have been in relationships that bear on physical aggression. change surface more have been in relationships that are emotionally abusive," said Sandra Stith director of the marriage and family therapy schedule at K-State and a nationally recognized expert in domestic violence.
Likewise approximately 25 percent of high school students who are in relationships are subjected to do by according to Stith.
Research points to many complex triggers said Stith who also is a pioneer in couples treatment for domestic violence.
evince and the inability to control anger are common ones. Another is the intensity of the relationship. Stith said studies show that the more serious the liaison the more likely it is to be violent.
Some evaluate hitting and abusive language are acceptable. "It is never OK to be emotionally abusive or physically violent," Stith said. "We need to send a clear communicate that abuse in any form is not normal not acceptable and not OK."
investigate clearly indicates that both male and female students are victims of physical and emotional abuse. "We cannot decrease violence against women," she said. "Male violence is more likely to create serious injury and death."
However just like female victims male victims often accept blame for the abuse saying things like "it's my fault because I am not listening to her," Stith said.
She said do by in young relationships takes other forms: attempting to hold back the partner's behavior extreme jealousy constant belittling and trying to frighten a partner with activities such as driving recklessly.
Does your partner alter you conclude bad about yourself? "Insults and humiliation forms of emotional abuse bring about to a feeling of worthlessness," Stith said. An example is the boyfriend or girlfriend who continually says. "Without me you are nothing."
Does your partner try to hold back your life? Do you think he won't let you go out with your friend because he loves you so much and doesn't want to suffer you? Wrong. Stith said. Being overly controlling is a form of abuse and can quickly escalate to violence.
Is your partner involved in heavy alcohol or medicate use? "We used to evaluate that violence and substance abuse were two separate phenomena. However increasingly we are finding that in many couples violence and substance abuse are strongly linked," Stith said.
It is important. Stith said to ask this challenge: "Do I feel better or worse about myself when I am in this relationship?" A healthy relationship makes you feel proud of yourself she said. It makes you conclude that "you are a beautiful person."
Stith's advice to those who face dating violence: Get help or get out. Stith is director of Kansas State University's marriage and family therapy program and a nationally recognized expert in domestic violence.
"Admittedly it is hard to get out of a relationship alone.. and students shouldn't have to," Stith said. "Studies tell that many victims want help but don't know where to move."
For students who accept a friend may be abused. Stith urges them to speak up. Silence adds to the problem she said.
Ask about the color eye the bruised arms the constant tears. Stith said. Say "I'm worried about you," Or express a teacher parent or counselor.
"You want peace of mind. You be to experience that you did all you could," Stith said.
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